Defrazzle with Romance

"If you would be loved, love and belovable." 

BenjaminFranklin

Ithink, if we were honest with ourselves, we would find that while we, as moms,long for romance and passion, we just don't have the energy to make ithappen.  At the end of our day, all wereally want to do is fall into bed, and sleep the sleep of the dead (well, notquite dead, but you know what I mean!) We wonder if passion will ever return, or if we're doomed to spending therest of our lives in dullsville.

Thereis hope!  Romance doesn't have to bereally difficult, and passion can still co-exist quite comfortably with youngkids.  Here are some ideas:

·       Investin the “10-Second Kiss”:  Every day whenyou say goodbye to your husband, take time to kiss him properly for atleast 10 seconds.  Enjoy the buzz, andsavour it throughout the day.

·       SlowDown: Make sure there is at least one day a week when life isn't crazy andhectic.  Sit down together and work withyour calendar of activities until you have some space worked into yourschedule.  Romance doesn't work if you'reexhausted.

·       ScheduleDate Nights: Work together with another couple in the same situation and tradeoff babysitting every other week so you can go out with your husband.  Just take a long walk, or go for a drive, orsit in a coffee-shop and just talk.

·       Dream:dream about your husband, your good memories together, times you've laughedtogether, times of passion and romance that you've shared.  Journal every good experience together andreview your journal often.

·       Spendtime just cuddling.  Watch a romanticmovie together cuddled up on the couch

·       Toucheach other often.  When standing in aline-up, while walking through the mall or grocery store, while eating dinner –find moments to just touch each other – hold hands, rest a hand on yourspouse’s knee, put your arm around them, etc.

·       Study upon Romance: there are great books in the library on romancing your husband, andjust reading them can often “get you in the mood”!

·       Kisseach other goodnight – slowly!

Sometimes,just making the decision to work on romance is a help and it will open doors tomore opportunities as the days progress. Focus on finding opportunities, and have the courage to follow throughwith any opportunity that arises.

Here’sthe best tip of all:

·       Think“Benefits”: a healthy (particularly monogamous) sex life improves the immunesystem, releases endorphins – the hormone that make you happy, slows the agingprocess, lowers cholesterol, increases circulation, reduces stress, and is anexcellent form of exercise!

So,love on!

DarleneHull